Splendid Mayhem: Silly Sisters

Welcome To Holland

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

Wednesday, March 26, 2008

Silly Sisters

And, you think little kids are hard to get pictures of? Try photographing 4 girls.... I'm hoping between my camera, Liz's, and Tiff's somebody got some good ones. Adam must have been taking the action shots! Our egg hunt turned into picture taking madness.

From left to right- Abbey, Hannah, Jessica, Tiffany

5 comments:

DawnMarch 26, 2008 at 6:50 PM
Oh that is classic! I must say, you're all so beautiful but you don't look much alike. I so wish I had a sister. I'm jealous. :(
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AnonymousMarch 27, 2008 at 12:13 AM
O.K...Jess, you look BEAUTIFUL!!! & your sisters are gorgeous too!!! How fun to have 3 sisters....I just have one!( she's GREAT though :)
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The MitchellsMarch 28, 2008 at 2:27 PM
I know you are probably rolling your eyes at everyone saying how beautiful you are...but you ARE.
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KieraMarch 28, 2008 at 7:56 PM
I love the picture! You all look like you are having so much fun! I agree with everyone that you look great! I do have to tell you though, I thought of Suze. She is having a hard time getting all 5 kids to pose right now... I do not know if I have the heart to let her know that it will go on for many years - LOL :)
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3LittleFlowersMarch 31, 2008 at 6:43 AM
That looked like fun!!!
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