Splendid Mayhem: No School Friday

Welcome To Holland

I am often asked to describe the experience of raising a child with a disability - to try to help people who have not shared that unique experience to understand it, to imagine how it would feel. It's like this......
When you're going to have a baby, it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip - to Italy. You buy a bunch of guide books and make your wonderful plans. The Coliseum. The Michelangelo David. The gondolas in Venice. You may learn some handy phrases in Italian. It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation, the day finally arrives. You pack your bags and off you go. Several hours later, the plane lands. The stewardess comes in and says, "Welcome to Holland."
"Holland?!?" you say. "What do you mean Holland?? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy. All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't taken you to a horrible, disgusting, filthy place, full of pestilence, famine and disease. It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place. It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there for a while and you catch your breath, you look around.... and you begin to notice that Holland has windmills....and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy... and they're all bragging about what a wonderful time they had there. And for the rest of your life, you will say "Yes, that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
And the pain of that will never, ever, ever, ever go away... because the loss of that dream is a very very significant loss.
But... if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy, you may never be free to enjoy the very special, the very lovely things ... about Holland.

Thursday, January 31, 2008

No School Friday

Agggggg... the snow is messing with our schedule! Do you know what unexpected schedule changes do to my children? Seriously... 4 days of no school- Monday is going to be complete and utter caos for my little Logen man! And, for Momma! Not sure if therapy is canceled tomorrow or not, they haven't posted that. All of the schools are closed though. Should have figured that one out on my own. It's like 20 degrees outside and the ground is wet! Duh, Jess!!!! :P

2 comments:

DawnFebruary 1, 2008 at 8:47 AM
We're celebrating our snow day up here. And you probably have a wee bit of snow. You southerners are so nutty about snow! Go build a snow man!

Love Parker's collage btw. I just want to squeeze those cheekies!
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ellen :)February 1, 2008 at 4:47 PM
oh sure, you guys...rub it in with the snow days! :(
Every school within 10 miles was closed for ice today but our district! Figures! :(
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